Have you ever felt like you’re just not good enough?

Do you find you’re comparing yourself to others and feeling like you just don’t measure up?

Our self-worth is developed during the first few years of our life and not something we have any control over. But when we find ourselves being ruled by what others think, then it’s time to take our life by the reins and steer it in another direction. I’m the middle of three children in my family and only separated by a few years, so it was easy for me to feel stuck in the middle and not easy to develop my own identity. The dynamics of my family imprinted on me the “don’t ruffle any feathers” attitude and I developed a mindset of “I’ll figure it out”, and “I don’t need any help.”

Learning how to ask for help has not always come easy for me and may be one of your challenges too. If this is one of the obstacles getting in your way then coaching can help you

• Learn how to ask for help
• Be okay with asking for help
• Learning the best way to ask for help

The art of asking for help will empower you to take back control of your life and bring back balance so you can start living with more peace and joy.

The Wheel of Time

Do you feel like there’s never enough time?

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be in control of your life?

What causes us to take on more than we can handle, so we are constantly trying to juggle too many balls at one time? 

Time is one of those things that we hear people talk a lot about. We hear them say, “there’s just not enough time,” “I don’t have enough time,” or “I wish I just had more time.” But the truth is we all have the same amount of time each day,

So, why do many people feel overwhelmed, like they are spinning their wheels?

I believe setting boundaries is truly an undervalued skill and the ability to say “yes” and “no” can instantly bring us freedom. Being a people pleaser at heart means it hasn’t always been easy to say “no,” since I don’t want to let others down.

So, how did I learn to finally say no? Well, for me two things happened. First, I  realized that saying “no” was the only way I would ever be able to say “yes” to myself.  I recognized that trying to please everyone else at my own expense only left me feeling frazzled and unfulfilled. I practiced saying no so I could choose what I wanted instead. At first it was uncomfortable, mostly because I assumed people would be disappointed, but that's how I learned the second thing. When we assume things we only make an ass of u and me. So, now I ask myself is it true this person may be disappointed? Is it my job to please everyone? Then I affirm I’m only one person, I’m allowed to say no and I want to choose how to spend my time and this has simplified my life.

Have you ever said “I want to do … , but I also want to … ?

Is it possible to do both?

If you can already see it’s possible then you can strategize on how, but if you can’t see it yet, we need to talk about the Law of “AND.”

How can I have both things I want at the same time?

So often we limit ourselves because we are operating under the belief that we can’t have everything we want, and “I must give up one thing to have another.” The Law of “AND” simply states “We can do one thing and do something else at the same time.

We’ve heard the expression “Where there’s a will there’s a way,” and if there’s truly a desire to have both then there’s also a way to make that real.

Our mindset is ruled by our belief system, so we have to change our beliefs if we are going to be able to see the possibilities, otherwise they are simply not visible.

Change your beliefs to change the way you think, and you’ll simply change your life.