I was reminded today while out for a run that the time we spend doing things that aren’t planned is often where we find the great pleasure. Keith Urban sings a fabulous song named “Wasted Time” and it’s on my running play list, so as I listened to the words, I started thinking about my own life and how busy I am.
We live in busy times and can access almost anything we want at anytime of the day or night. We live over-scheduled and over-planned to the point of exhaustion. We spend a lot of time looking at our phones, staring at computers or watching TV.
So, I invited you to set a side a day in the very near future (and I will too), and don’t plan anything. Disconnect from all your electronic devices and go with the flow. Get outside, look at the beauty around you, smell the flowers, breathe in the fresh air and be present in your life. It will most likely be uncomfortable at first but I think if we give it a chance we might find happiness.
For most of us change is challenging and even when we want things to be different or know what to do we resist it like the plague. We find ourselves thinking thoughts like, “it will be too difficult”, or “it will be so painful”, and we talk ourselves out of even trying.
So, how to we make change fun, easy and enjoyable? Well, I believe it starts with choice. First we have to choose to take steps that will lead us to the change we ultimately want. Then we need to give ourself options, or choices that will empower us to partner with creating the change, gently coaxing our brains to do things differently, and finally take action with the first step forward.
For quite sometime I would drink one cup of coffee in the morning and it was kind of like a ritual, until I noticed the acidity was irritating my stomach and my heart was racing from the caffeine. So, I decided I wanted to quit drinking it. Then I chose to switch to decaffeinated and did this for a couple weeks, and then I switch to herbal tea. This was a much easier process and I was able to quit drinking coffee in just a few short weeks.
Sometimes we need more information before we can take action, but most often we just need desire and then to take the right steps in the right order to create new habits that will lead to the change we want. Whatever it is you’d like to be different can be accomplished when you start with choice, and It can be a fun easy way to create new habits that turn into behaviors that lead to the lasting change you want to experience.
We all crave something, whether it’s food, fun, or time for rest and understanding what our cravings mean is the first step toward healing, and leads to more peace, love, hope and joy.
Cracking the code to your cravings doesn’t need to be difficult but it does take readiness. A willingness to receive, love, and support and to learn how to do things differently. Only then can we take the right steps in the right order to create new habits that turn into behaviors that last.
What do you crave and what do you think your cravings are telling you?
That was a question I had for a very long time, and It took me many years to find the answer. I’d been doing the same things the same way for so long, that I simply wasn’t able to see what I was doing,
Our cravings are a way for our body and soul to communicate with us. It’s up to us to listen and tune into what they want or need.
We’ve each been given gifts, talents, and passions and when we crack the code to our cravings we learn what God created us for and how to become the best version of who we were meant to be.
The act of pruning means to cut back and with plants and trees it entails cutting off the dead branches or stems to increase the production of fruit and allow for new growth.
Sometimes we’ve allowed areas of our lives to take energy from us and when we choose to prune or clear the clutter from our environment, our schedule, or any area of our life that’s sapping our energy, we are able to bare more fruit and become a better version of ourself.
When I first start working with a new client this is one of our first steps. We start by looking at how they are doing everything from the moment they wake up until the time they close their eyes and go to sleep. Because the way we do one thing is often the way we do everything, and it’s often challenging to see what we are doing. A Coach or an expert Gardener can help us see where best to cut back to allow for optimal growth.
The practice of gratitude is something most of us need to be intentional with, at least until it becomes a habit. A couple of years ago I began the the habit of reading and writing first thing every morning. I’d get my cup of coffee, my devotional, Bible and journal and go to the same chair on my lanai and read, pray and write.
Some days when I first sat down I’d already be feeling anxious about the day to come and my focus was centered on tasks and responsibilities, and have to be very intentional about what I was doing. Then as I began to read and write my focus would shift to all the blessings I have in my life and I’d start to feel at peace.
Since I began this practice of reading and writing each morning I’ve noticed that shifting my attention toward being grateful helps set my intention for the day and allows me to be more present in everything I do.
It’s never too late to begin. Start by setting a time each day to think of 3 things you are grateful for and write them down. Use the same notebook or journal so you can look back at them when you most need it.
I like to believe the more grateful we approach each day prepares us for the bumps of life, so when when we do face trials we can still choose to be grateful. Give it a try and don’t be surprised when your cup is overflowing with thanksgiving.
I recently read this allegory.
You’re walking down the street holding a cup of coffee, when someone bumps into you and your coffee spills.
Why did you spill your coffee? Because someone bumped in to you? Wrong.
You spilled your coffee because there was coffee in your cup. If you had tea in your cup you would have spilled tea. Whatever is in your cup is what will spill out.
When the bumps of life come along and shake you (and they will) what will spill out of you. Well, it depends on what you’re filled with. Is it joy, peace, love and gratitude, or anger, bitterness, and jealousy?
It’s often easy to keep it together when things are going well. It’s when unexpected trials come along that whatver we are filled with just comes out.
In this New Year let’s be intentional about what we fill ourselves with.
The start of a new year brings an opportunity for reflection and goal setting, and we often start off by thinking of all the things we didn’t do or arent doing and get down on ourselves. So, I invite you to reflect on your year and think of at least 3 things that are going well for you at this moment in time. Acknowledgement can give us a boost and motivate us to continue to strive to be better.
At the beginning of last year I was celebrating my first 6 months in business and at first I felt like, what have I done? Then I did the same exercise and focused on three things I had done. I had my first private clients, I gave my first talks, and I started a group coaching class. All of them were amazing learning experiences. As much as we try to avoid it, failure always give us feedback. So, trying new things and not getting them perfect is always better than not trying them at all.
This year I’m celebrating completing my first full year and boy has it been an amazing journey. Not only did I have the opportunity to connect with some fabulous people but I also enrolled in continuing my training through the Health Coach Institute and will be completing my HMBA (Holistic Masters in Business Administration) in June of 2018. Talk about stretch!
So, as you set out for another year, pat yourself on the back for your accomplishments before setting your new goals and remember small hinges swing big doors, change takes time and consistency is the key. Be realistic but still stretch yourself and live like there’s no tomorrow.
Celebrate! Simply Natural You